Dealing with Fear while living with Anxiety

Updated: Oct 19


Avoidance  We've all had that moment in life where we became fearful of life and the things that surround it. The only way to deal with fear is to face it, I've been guilty of avoiding my fears which have prevented me from moving forward. It has sent my anxiety to an all-time high. I've learned to be gentle with myself and to do only what makes me feel safe, if you have ever found yourself getting more anxious or panicky, stop what you doing and take a deep breath and find something pleasant that makes you happy and a comfort to you.  But the important factor of this doesn't mean you avoid the feelings of fear,  you can try to explore them again after taking breaks. There has been times that I found it difficult to address my fear or my anxiety on my own, with the help of therapy I was able to work through avoiding fear and anxiety with different strategies. If you are someone who has experienced trauma such as I have at a very tender age of 13, it is especially important to work with a therapist to create a safe environment where you can face your fear and recreate your memories.  One of my techniques throughout the years of coping has been mindfulness meditation. All it took was for me to sit quietly and observe the present moment and the feelings that I'm having.  While doing so my fear and anxiety arise but I don't avoid it but instead recognize it,  I've told myself it's okay to be curious. It's ok to not be ok. I've learned to always observe my anxiety and notice how it makes my body feels and experience the thoughts associated with my anxiety. 


Develop a healthy sense of personal control When needed I took a break and gain some personal control of my situation. Not being able to control my surroundings but only myself I found that the Serenity Prayer has been very helpful.  "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference"

Promote positivity The world can be a scary place, which causes our fear to allow us to focus on the negative events in our lives. But we can diligently change that by focusing on the positive aspects of life. I chose to promote positivity at all times like the joy I feel when I see someone I love, the pleasure of the beautiful sunshine which allows me to know that there's brighter days, the beauty of nature, the ocean, the fun of an outing, the humor in a situation.


Find meaning

Being a survivor of trauma has given me the opportunity to find true meaning of life. My sense of the world has been Shattered by fear as we know it. Experiencing trauma let me to question the meaning of my life, it often made me feel guilty about what happened, feeling, logically, hoping that I could have prevented it in some way and the shame can also contribute to doubts about my meaning of life. No matter what we suffer from anxiety or trauma it is always important to Rediscover a sense of purpose.  Get support Support goes a long way, I've been so fearful which caused me to disconnect from others. My support system hasn't been the best so my word of advice to you is to get the support you need it is very vital to your mental health. I know dealing with anxiety can be a tough one and definitely not having the family support or a support system can be detrimental to one's health.  If you are someone who doesn't have the support from your friends or family my word of advice to you is to reach out to professional counseling. By not having the support that I needed I was able to create that by finding a safe space for myself. But with the support of others, we feel more confident that we can deal with issues and physically having a loved one close calms and reduces the response.